Many geeks don't really have a sexuality - they just have work. I think the sequence is that they get jobs at Microsoft or wherever right out of school, and they're so excited to have this "real" job and money that they just figure that the relationships will naturally happen, but then they wake up and they're thirty and they haven't had sex in eight years.
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It's like male geeks don't know how to deal with real live women, so they just assume it's a user interface problem.
While I didn't have it quite that bad, I lived in that world for a while. And it's not fair to put down geeks for not getting it on very much. (That last sentence of Coupland's is very harsh.) Consider the odds against the typical geek:
- He is usually very busy with work: many software development firms have "aggressive" deadline schedules. In this context, "aggressive" usually means "virtually impossible to meet unless everybody works their butt off and we luck out".
- There are usually way more men than women in any social environment in which he is likely to be.
- There's likely to be considerable competition for the attention of any woman that happens to venture into his environment.